Monday, January 3, 2011

Change Happens

There's an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:

A right time for birth and another for death,
A right time to plant and another to reap,
A right time to kill and another to heal,
A right time to destroy and another to construct,
A right time to cry and another to laugh,
A right time to lament and another to cheer,
A right time to make love and another to abstain,
A right time to embrace and another to part,
A right time to search and another to count your losses,
A right time to hold on and another to let go,
A right time to rip out and another to mend,
A right time to shut up and another to speak up,
A right time to love and another to hate,
A right time to wage war and another to make peace.

But in the end, does it really make a difference what anyone does? I've had a good look at what God has given us to do - busywork, mostly. True, God made everything beautiful in itself and in its time - but he's left us in the dark, so we can never know what God is up to, whether he's coming or going. I've decided that there's nothing better to do than go ahead and have a good time and get the most we can out of life. That's it - eat, drink, and make the most of your job. It's God's gift. I've also concluded that whatever God does, that's the way it's going to be, always. No addition, no subtraction. God's done it and that's it. That's so we'll quit asking questions and simply worship in holy fear.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-14, The Old Testament, The Message

I don't usually like sitting through a sermon with a new or different preacher. I like my preacher, thankyouverymuch. There are several stand-ins at our church that I have trouble listening to. The stand-in yesterday, though, was spot on. I'm stealing part of what he said. Paraphrased, mind you. With me added in.

It's a new year. Time for change, we always hope. This was a good year, but it could always be better, right? And for a lot of you, this last was a bad year. Change is something you anticipate with bated breath.

Personally, I hate change. Most change.

Here's a question the preacher asked: What was your biggest change this year?

I'm still chewing on the answer. It might be the loss of internet connection for awhile. Wouldn't that be sad. I can't think of another big change. I liked the last year. My grandma died, which was huge for all of us, but that was the end of 2009. Hmm.

Regardless, change is inevitable. Pastor said that every change is death. The old status quo is dead. We mourn what's dead or lost. Do we? Do we always mourn what we lose in change?

Every change is also rebirth. We celebrate change or birth.

Oo! Calum! Not really my change, but my sister had her first child this year. Holding him for a week, cuddling, baby-talking, loving my teeny nephew, all brought home that I ADORE babies. And that I'll be content to enjoy my sister's. And wait for grandchildren.

I think I'd been mourning the loss of babies for awhile (we'd discussed adoption off and on, but I was pretty much done). I was able to celebrate the new birth with my sister. And now I can celebrate my own change of life, my own step away from babies and small children and into another phase of life.

Celebrating - do we celebrate all changes? Seriously - celebrating the onset of menopause? The insanity, forgetfulness, weariness. I can celebrate the beginning of a new stage of life, though. I can celebrate stepping into being someone other than I've been, because that's how I feel, like someone else.

Chris Colvin, you did a nice job. Made me think. Made me a little sad. Especially thinking about how futile things sometimes seem. But I'm looking forward, now, to 2011. Thank you. Looking forward to reading through the New Testament this next month and a half with the church. Looking forward to being active, not passive. Looking forward to seeing Calum in the spring. Looking forward to that most of all, I think.

Until I write again ...

Flea

15 comments:

Laura~peach~ said...

very true.

Karen said...

Funny how I'd never thought of that passage as exactly perfect for the start of a new year before.

Paxie said...

Two posts in a row about change. I just read this when I opened my new calendar.

"Hopw ia not the conviction that something will turn out well but the certainty that something makes sense, regarless of how it turns out."

--Vaclav Havel

Terrific post woman :)

Mental P Mama said...

I love it when they make you think. For me, it was finally getting a paying job. I am a new person!

Trisha said...

Change is all around us even if we resist it. My life seems to constantly be changing and being able to accept the change and "let go and let God" has been my challenge!

Daryl said...

Happy New Year!

Leenie said...

Put on goofy optimistic hat. And put a clown in Hunny's lounge chair. Some change can be real good.

Cheeseboy said...

Interesting. Is change for the worst a rebirth too? Like a bad rebirth? Not that I am thinking of changing for the worst, but Wendy's twice in a day does sound pretty good.

Hope you had a happy new years!

Marguerite said...

Insanity, forgetfulness and weariness? Sounds like life with a newborn to me... :)

Change is good. I usually freak out a little when I realize a change is coming, but I'm constantly amazed how often the actual event passes like any other day. Maybe I'm just caught up in the activities, or maybe I'm well prepared, or in Calum's case maybe I'm too sleep deprived to notice. Either way, I know I have a steady rock in God to fall back on. :)

Nice post. We are looking forward to our visit too!

Noe Noe Girl...A Queen of all Trades. said...

Good post Flea. I like change especially when it makes a difference!
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Crazed Nitwit said...

Aw heck. I never have any change in MY life. HA! Surfing the changes the best I can. I'm working on embracing the change thing.

mumple said...

This side of you is killing me. Sheesh, Woman! Get outta my head!

Tiaras said...

Change can be good - and sometimes not so - I was just chatting with my brother last night that he needed to change the direction of his life and this would be his year to turn it all around!

Best of luck to you in 2011 with many new dreams! - Happy New Year

imbeingheldhostage said...

Awesome Flea, thanks for sharing the message that has you thinking-- nice boost to get me thinking. Happy New Year my sweet friend, I hope this year is better than you could possibly anticipate :)

Coffee Bean said...

I think I like change... LOL! Not always though.